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When Do You Need To Step Up As A Parent

In my previous blog post, I wrote about how you can teach children self-discipline and why you should. According to Dr Gordon, an American clinical psychologist, the best way to do this is to teach them problem-solving abilities by involving them in the decision-making process. That makes them feel responsible for the outcome. I did mention, however, that this theory does not apply to some situations and that you sometimes need to step up as a parent and be authoritative. But when exactly is that moment and what does it mean?

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How To Teach Your Children Self-Discipline

In my previous blog post, I wrote about how you could handle conflicts with your children. I encouraged the idea that you give your kids space to make their own decisions – and ultimately their mistakes. But how do you make sure they have all they need for completing this task?

External v. internal steering

Everybody knows that there are different theories of raising kids. This one about self-discipline, that I support, is from Dr Thomas Gordon. He was influenced by Carl Rogers. Rogers was a humanistic psychologist. He believed that every person can achieve their goals because they have one basic motive, that is the tendency to self-actualise – i.e. to fulfil one’s potential and achieve the highest level of “being human.”

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All Parents Make Mistakes And So Do You

In my first blog post, I wrote about fighting siblings and how you can handle it. I analysed it in detail and gave the steps towards the solution. Raising teenagers is not easy. Helping with the solution to their conflicts is also a difficult task. But, in comparison to the difference in opinions with a parent, it is peanuts. For the parent, anyway…

The parent always wants to be right

In my long practice working with families, one thing became clear: parents are not really flexible. They usually think that they are right and that the kids are being difficult. They give the same kids little or no space to state their own opinions. Even if the opinion does get out, there is usually no acceptance of a difference in views. Yes, I am also guilty of this. I do find it very difficult to admit that they have this right. And, I do find it very difficult to accept it that they sometimes make a decision that I do not agree with.

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Siblings Fighting – How Far Should You Let Them?

We – my web specialist and me – have been working on the website for already a month. Then, the moment came for me to write the first article for the blog. I was contemplating, I noted subjects I would like to write about, but still not sure what I should start with. And then – like it usually happens to me – life threw me a bone.

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